In any sensitive, personal, hurtful situation what do you think people love to do more?
Comfort and console you? Well yes, the people who are kind and good hearted.
BUT what do people love to do MORE????
If you guessed cause drama, gossip and spread rumors yooooour RIGHT!
Since I don't feel like I keep my personal issues hidden in the closet and I consider my self very open and honest and have been this whole time I'll just lay out the truth of what the gossip is.
Yes, I have started dating someone.
Yes, some individuals that live near me may have seen this gentleman's truck at my house...that happens when you date someone.
Yes, my soon to be ex husband knows. I actually told him before anything became official, that there was someone of interest, as to discourage the drama/gossip spreading. I wanted him to hear it from ME and not over exaggerated from elsewhere.
Is he upset, yes. But it seems that some people are forgetting what "broke the camels back".
Is arguing about anything pertaining to my kids important, NO.
What you need to know...
Am I happy? Does this guy make me happy? YES :)
Here's the BIG question that could be up for debate:
"Don't you think it's a little TOO soon to start dating someone?"
Here is MY answer:
From the outsiders point of view maybe, it has been exactly 2 months to the day that I kicked my husband out for finding out he had a "female friend". It has been a little over 6 months from the day he came home and told me he "didn't love me anymore", during this time we were doing marriage counseling. And it has been 9 months from the first day I kicked him out of the house for the night. Things had gotten so bad and there were times I asked him to stay elsewhere so the kids weren't affected by things going on at home. We both needed to be away from each other.
The day he came home and told me he "didn't love me" was the day everything changed. For weeks I was left to my own devises, as a single mother of 3 little children I was scared because the life I was forced to view was filled with uncertainty. How can I support these kids alone? But there came a point where I was left with no other choice than to think that way. Maybe I did "give up" as some say back then, but now I just see it as choosing a better life for my kids and I.
So is it too soon to date?
I look at it as I've been alone for awhile, I've been raising my children alone for awhile. I would say longer than 6 months but for some people we can just use that 6 month marker and the point in where my world changed.
Was I looking to date? NO. It just happened. I was introduced to him at a birthday party and things just naturally happened after that.
Here is what I believe to be true:
"EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON"
"WE DON'T MEET PEOPLE BY ACCIDENT, THEY ARE MEANT TO CROSS OUR PATHS FOR A REASON"
And at the end of the day. My choices are MY choices. I am a great mother and my kids come first ABOVE ALL! My happiness directly effects their happiness. And I can finally say that I am happy...I was happy before anyone else came into the picture. And that should be that all people need to know and should care about. If you truly care about me and the person I am my happiness should be enough for you.
On a side note I did feel the need to get a little out of my comfort zone and post something on my facebook page. I refrain from posting anything directly pertaining my personal issues regarding my marriage on my facebook page but somehow people can make ANYTHING out of NOTHING! And unfortunately I have nothing to hide. Some people that are close to me, near me and people whom I loved are the people causing more problems than necessary. I would kindly ask you to please stop, all I want for BOTH my children's father and I as well as my kids is happiness. I don't believe that can happen staying together anymore and I do wish and hope for him to find happiness.
Here is what was posted on my facebook page Saturday:
"I feel that throughout all my life lessons going on right now that I have been respectful drama free and have not made direct, hurtful posts towards others in my life. It's very hurtful when I hear people near me and close to me that I love make my life into their drama and gossip. I DO have a few choice words for you but since I am a lady and a mom AND have better things to do with my time I won
t waste it on you. (the min it takes me to post this isn't even worth it)
Please let me know if I have not been respectful of other parties or made hurtful posts. Other than that MY life is not yours to spread and turn into your drama...maybe you should find something more productive to do with your life. :) Everyone have a GREAT day! :)
HUGS!
Thanks, Bree"
Please let me know if I have not been respectful of other parties or made hurtful posts. Other than that MY life is not yours to spread and turn into your drama...maybe you should find something more productive to do with your life. :) Everyone have a GREAT day! :)
HUGS!
Thanks, Bree"
I would also like to say that anything I post on MY facebook page or MY (and Jessi's) blog is exactly that....MINE...if you have a problem with anything I post or write than don't read it :) Simple as that! Though I do love all our readers ;)
Have a wonderful day everyone~
Bree and J
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